DON’T BE A REPLICA BE THE ORIGINAL

So you happen to have a view or opinion that others disagree with, you’re strong in your mind and confident within yourself. You would be seen as the Alpha amongst society, you feel like an Alpha because you don’t feel you have to challenge others but can rise to the challenges. You don’t need to prove that you’re intelligent, attractive and can make your way in this world with determination, not giving up and confronting the fear. Now, this means from time to time there will be others, usually Beta (middleman) persons who want to challenge you and your ideals. If you truly are an Alpha, you will take on this challenge and it won’t break your spirit, it will only make you stronger. That doesn’t mean you cannot open your mind enough to change position and ideals, to change how you behave and what you believe. Those who are truly Alpha and truly secure will not feel those insecurities of the average man, but life will challenge this the most. Those who suffer with insecurity will do their best to bring you down and break that strong spirit… why? Because you are secretly all that they wish they could be for various reasons, and it seems the Beta and Omega (lower man) will never feel the way you do. Now lets not confuse Alpha with dominance and Omega with Submissive. You can still be an Omega man or woman who is assertively dominant in the bedroom and yet submissive when it comes to decision making on the shopping. There are so many various and wonderful combinations of people, this is just set out to look at the basics underlying an area of human nature that fascinates me.

People in our social network today (in western civilisation) somehow manage to build groupings of friends and family, and yet still choose to have one partner and hopefully that single partner for all of their lives. This is an ideal, and reality only shows that people change partners regularly, just as much as their personalities change (which is argued to be every 7 years or so, hence the 7 year itch). How do we choose our partners through our position in the hierarchic community? We see so often if this pairing isn’t right on both levels of Alpha, Beta, Omega and Dominant, Sub-Dominant and Submissive meaning things can go wrong without great effort. For example; A woman who is an Omega female with a submissive mentality to all situations would be the easier type of person to be manipulated by even those of the Beta Submissive level males, than anther Omega Submissive male. It is said and Alpha Dominant females find male genitalia sexually arousing, at all times, that she will have a higher sex drive than the average female. Whereas the Beta Sub-Dominant female will see male genitalia as a desirable object when aroused but before hand, something that does not particularly excite anything, yet could be exciting. The Omega Submissive female finding genitalia as something rude, embarrassing or even repulsive or for purely procreative reasons. This is very similar in the male categories and does not include discovery emotional and social situations and factors such as depression which can reduce sex drive. Do we subconsciously already obtain a natural order to how to progress, respond, match, mismatch and develop? How do we know we are not wasting our time with partners?

Isn’t it strange how in couplings often we see an Alpha (someone say beautiful, interesting, intelligent, confident and contented) with someone Beta (someone who wishes to be the Alpha, admires, envies and challenges the Alpha) - often clashing in personalities and often with frustration, aggression, upset and inadequacies involved at some points. Sometimes as socially and internally personalities change, these clashes can be worked through and as each partner rubs off on the other, people can become their better selves. So, when the clashes go wrong, it seems to me that it’s a Beta becoming a bully to feel as equal to the Alpha (equality is important), again here we are not involving the dominant or submissive yet. Once this poor coupling equality falls apart and one or both parties realise it is “Just not working”, oddly the Beta of the pairing seeks a new partner who is very similar to the Alpha (often in looks and small interests) and yet understands that this time they will choose someone with a social hierarchy similar to theirs, they could not meet the challenge of the Alpha, so take the less challenging. The Alpha however, feels that they do not want to seek an replica of an ideal, but still seeks that ideal, refusing to settle for anything less, and seeking new horizons. Often sometimes leading to those of characters just as strong to themselves and maybe totally different to the previous partner. Still, Alpha’s will find it hard to find another Alpha (someone equal) in a world that contains so many Beta people. Could it also be that Alpha’s often enjoy the company of those who do not challenge them, but those who will accept what they believe and create? Is this where the dominant and submissive aspects of personality play an important part?

Dominant Alpha’s may well enjoy the partnership of a person who is of lower hierarchy and yet can play dominant roles in various areas of life, or of someone who is an Alpha that is submissive in various areas, due to being secure enough to let go. For example; an Alpha woman who enjoys being with a Beta man - she is the most forward thinking, most able to deal with the challenges life presents, most able to feel comfortable within herself, and the man being dominant in decision making, dominant in the workload, or the cooking and so on, could it be that they rub off on each other and become a perfect match, not so much equal in all areas, but a greater understanding of each other and acceptance of who someone is? With so many darker days drawing close with the economical crisis and normal social positions being challenged, work becoming less available, poverty forcing decisions and actions of people… We are slowly being forced to not only show our true colours, but also see who will stick it out in a partnership or situation when challenged. As the saying goes “when money troubles come in, love goes out the door” (or something like that), and so we finally see clearly how people are starting to choose their partnerships, what people may tolerate to keep finances rolling, or have that extra support. How honest are people being? What level are people forced to place themselves in hierarchy and at what levels do people feel inadequate or deal with the challenge? How many people are faking it? The least I can know in such corruption and falsity is - I am not a replica, I am an original and have no fear in voicing my mind and rising to a challenge if I see fit, how do you see yourself and how honest are you with who you are and what you want in life, and how you deal with the challenges that come along?